Wow! It's been over a month since I've posted a Daily Happiness question, and there are only two questions left! So let's do this.
Question 27: What do you need to let go of?
My Answer: This one is pretty easy for me to answer these days. FEAR. I need to let go of fear. Fear of judgment, failure, and inadequacy.
There aren't many things in this world I'm afraid of, when it comes down to it. For instance, I'm not afraid of heights, of water, of the dark, of flying, etc. I'm not afraid to try new things; I'm not afraid of change, of discomfort, of pain. I'm not afraid of loss, even, to an extent. And I'm not afraid of dying.
Lately though, in light of some new ventures, I've found myself at times almost paralyzed by fear of
judgment. I do this, I do that, I say this, I say that, and for the most part I'm completely comfortable in my own skin and with my choices. But... what if "they're" not? What if what I think is right, they think is wrong? What if they're talking about me behind my back, and comparing me to themselves and to others, and I'm not measuring up?
failure. I'm pretty good at some things. I'm confident and comfortable and humble enough to acknowledge my strengths and weaknesses, and I can typically handle it when someone doesn't like something I've made or written. But, what if they don't like it because it's actually just not good? What if anyone who says they like my work is just being nice? What if this new project I'm working on completely bombs, and is turned down outright? What will people say then (see my fear of judgment)? What if all of these things I'm doing are a complete waste of time because in reality I'm failing at them all?
inadequacy. Like I said, I'm pretty good at some things, but I also do realize that I'm not the best at most things. In parenting, in marriage, in life. So what if "pretty good" isn't good enough? What if they only want the best, and I'm not it? When I look at other people's work and lives, sometimes all I see are the many ways I don't measure up. What if I'm just not good enough?
All of the above are real thoughts that occasionally run through my mind. And I don't feel ashamed admitting them to you; I'm human, after all. But I know these thoughts are unhealthy. My mind isn't consumed by them, please don't get me wrong. In fact, more often than not, these fears are hidden away and I forget that I ever had them. But when they do surface, they are there with a vengeance. And I need to let go of them.
So how will I do that?
Starting today, when I catch myself fearing judgment, failure, or inadequacy, or if I'm feeling afraid or insecure at all, I'll shift the focus of my heart and mind to these:
I'm confident these verses will work wonders for my confidence. (See what I did there?) I plan to paint them, to letter them, to put them on my walls and to carry them with me everywhere, to serve as reminders to me throughout everyday.
I don't know that they'll work on my fear of spiders, though...
HOW ABOUT YOU? What do you need to let go of, and how will you let go of it? Tell me in the comments! ⤵︎
Oh, by the way, if you're a Creative, this article was shared on Facebook the other day, and it confirmed for me that I'm not the only one that struggles with insecurities (of course I'm not), and that these particular fears are common for creative minds.